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Why the Dating DNA site is “G-Rated”

October 4, 2009

The entire Dating DNA site is “G Rated.”  This means any of the public areas must not contain anything offensive to a “general audience.”  (No nude or suggestive photos, no profanity or adult language in the forums and chat rooms, etc.) For example, our Forums and Chat Rooms have a filter to screen out potentially offensive, non-G rated language.  Profiles with non-G rated photos are quickly deleted, and so on.

However, even though the site is G-rated, you must also be an adult (18 years or older) to have a Dating DNA account.  So, we often get asked the question, “If only adults are on this site, why does it need to be G rated?  We’re all adults here, why make us hold back and keep things G?” We get asked this question enough, I thought it time to address it in our blog.

First, let me address why Dating DNA only allows adults, 18 and older to join:

In many states, the “age of consent” is 18.  Because we are a dating site with the intention of helping people meet for dating and relationships, we don’t think it’s appropriate to mix minors and adults together.  We also don’t think it’s proper for us to be creating a dating environment for a minor without their parent’s consent and involvement.  For these reasons, to obtain a Dating DNA account, you must acknowledge that you are at least 18.  (If you find minors on the site, please report them so their account can be closed.  You can learn about Dating DNA’s community monitoring and reporting here.)

Next, let me address why Dating DNA is 100% G-rated:

To do this, let’s look at a hypothetical situation.  Suppose a creepy old pervert peeks his head into the doorway of two clubs that are right next to each other.  The first club is well lit, full of people nicely dressed, all of which are smiling, laughing, and discussing sports, music, politics, and the news of the day.  The second club is dimly lit and filled with people scantly dressed, drunk, telling obscene jokes, and swearing profusely.  Which of these two clubs do you think this pervert will enter and spend the evening?

The same is true of websites.  If a website is full of nude photos, swearing, and obscene language, it will attract the perverts and repel those sincerely looking for someone compatible to date.   If you don’t believe me, just check this out:  Craigslist NYC Personals – Men Seeking Women.

We created Dating DNA to help sincere singles find someone compatible for dating.  Even though we have chat rooms, games, and other fun and interesting things to do on the site, the main goal for our site is always to find compatible dating opportunity for sincere singles.

Because Dating DNA is a free service (no fees, no credit card needed, etc.), it’s very easy for anyone to get an account.  This means someone could join, go into the chat rooms, and start being offensive to everyone without fear of their identity being discovered or losing any money.  This is why most “free” dating sites don’t work. They quickly become over run with the lowest common denominator of perverts, fakes, spammers, etc.

We knew when we set out to create a free service with Dating DNA, this would be our biggest challenge:  How do you have a free dating site, yet keep out the pervs, spammers, and fakes? We made solving this dilemma our number one priority.  You can read the very first blog I ever penned for Dating DNA here:  Zero Tolerance for Perverts, Fibbers, Fakes, Spammers, and Scammers.  We then put into place our community monitoring, which you can read about in my blog here:   Community Monitoring: The Dating DNA Community Decides Who to Reject.

As with my example of the two clubs earlier, by keeping Dating DNA 100% G-Rated, we are more likely to attract the sincere singles and repel the perverts.  By enforcing our G-rated community standards, our user base becomes larger and larger with these sincere singles, while the number of perverts, fakes, gamers, etc. gets smaller and smaller.  There are thousands of places on the Internet for the sexually-oriented crowd to chat and meet, we want Dating DNA to be one of those rare places where sincere singles can make compatibility the focus, not just sex.

Kevin Carmony
Founder, Dating DNA
DNA# 123-456-789
(I intentionally keep my Threshold set at 1, so feel free to
add me to your strand and shoot me an email anytime.)

Community Monitoring: The Dating DNA Community Decides Who to Reject

April 10, 2009

Some of you may be familiar with some of the early controversy with eHarmony’s acceptance practices.  eHarmony didn’t let just anyone join their site, and they “rejected” a good number of applicants. jumped on this to poke fun at eHarmony with a series of commercials.  Many spoofs cropped up on YouTube about eHarmony’s policy of rejecting users.

I always thought it was a mistake for to poke fun at eHarmony for rejecting users. All this did was promote eHarmony and the fact that they didn’t let every weirdo on their site.  How is that a bad thing?  (Unless, of course, you’re a weirdo. =) was PAYING to tell the world that eHarmony users were a cut above, since they weeded out all the nuts who welcomed in.  Something tells me eHarmony was grateful for the free advertising.

See this YouTube spoof to see what I’m talking about:

Anyone who has had ANY social interaction on the Internet knows there are some crazy people on the Internet. Fakes, frauds, spammers, porno peddlers, perverts, and just plane loons.  This is why I support eHarmony in their efforts to keep these people from their site.  The challenge for eHarmony, however, is that they have to play judge and jury as to who to boot and who to let in.  That’s a pretty heavy job for any one person or organization, and you have to spend time defending your decisions.

At Dating DNA, we too believe not just anyone should be part of our community here, but WE (employees at Dating DNA) have no desire to play judge and jury with who stays and who goes, so here at Dating DNA we let our community decide who to “reject.”

Throughout the website, we make it easy to “report” a user. For example, anytime you receive an email from a user, we provide a convenient link to quickly, with just a click or two, report the user for any number of reasons.  If enough users report the same user they are automatically deleted and sent the following email:

Subject:  Account Deleted

Your Dating DNA account has been automatically deleted based on feedback from the Dating DNA community.  Also, any messages you had sent have been deleted from the inbox of those you emailed.

The Dating DNA system allows users to flag others if they feel they are behaving in some inappropriate, offensive, fraudulent, or off-putting manner.  If enough users report the same user, the system automatically deletes that user’s account.

Users will report other users for any number of reasons, including things such as:

– Using profanity or offensive language in profiles, emails or on the Forums (The site and Forums are “G” rated)
– Posting nude, suggestive or offensive photos (Photos must be “G” rated)
– Posting a fake photo that’s not really you
– Indiscriminately emailing users who live in other countries or far away
– “Cheesy” of vulgar come-on lines, or over familiarity with people you’ve just met on the system
– Being under the age of 18
– Suspected fraud or scam
– Using the site to sell products or services
– Posting personal information, phone numbers, etc. on the Forums.
– Rude comments or behavior
– Or just plain creeping someone out

Regardless of the reasons, the bottom line is that you, in some way, offended enough of our users that your account has been deleted.

Because we are a free site, we are quick to allow the community to remove users who they find off putting.  We let our community decide who fits in and who doesn’t.

Dating DNA

It may seem harsh that we just automatically let the community delete users, without any warning or probation.  Yes, it IS harsh, but we have zero tolerance for people who try to disrupt our community. There are plenty of other places on the Internet for those who want to pull all the nonsense listed above.  Our requirements to be accepted here are pretty simple and straight forward:  be respectful, real and keep it clean, stuff anyone should have learned by 1st grade.  I think it’s a good thing for Dating DNA users to know that if they go around offending others in the community, that their account will automatically be deleted, along with their answers to the questionnaire, their Friends List, and all their emails.

I would encourage you to please report users who you feel have crossed the line.  You won’t be able to toss them on your own, it will take other users reporting the same person, but where there’s smoke there’s fire, so please add to a user’s black checks if you find them behaving inappropriately.  I think Dating DNA has done a good job of keeping our community free from the less desirable elements, by nipping them in the bud early and quickly.  Your help to continue to do that is appreciated.  This is YOUR site, so please help us keep it a comfortable place to spend time.

Oh, and, if you want to spend millions promoting the fact that Dating DNA rejects users, we’d welcome the help!

Kevin Carmony
Founder, Dating DNA
DNA# 123-456-789
(I intentionally keep my Threshold set at 1, so feel free to
add me to your strand and shoot me an email anytime.)

Why Dating DNA Doesn’t Have Ads on Our Site like PlentyOfFish and Others

December 1, 2008

Dating DNA is not only 100% free to use, but we also don’t do any advertising on our site.  Because we’re run by volunteers and funded internally, we currently don’t need to charge or run ads.  I’m glad this is the case, and here’s a good example why.

I just took this screenshot from

Screenshot from a User's Profile on

Screenshot of a user's profile page on

Now, look closely at this section…

Inappropriate ad displayed right next to user's profile photo on

Inappropriate ad displayed right next to user's photo on

The photo to the left is of a legitimate user on, but the text to the right is a Google Ad.  If you were a female on a dating or social networking site, would you want this text next to your profile photo?!?! “Meet Lonely Married Women–Housewives Looking for Fun and More–30% Of Wives Cheat.”

I hope our users enjoy the fact that not only is our site free from cost, it’s also free from these type of ads running next to their profile, or anywhere else on our site.

As always, I’d enjoy hearing your thoughts about this and hope you’ll discuss it with me and other users on the Chat Walls here.


Kevin Carmony
Founder, Dating DNA
DNA# 123-456-789
(I intentionally keep my Threshold set at 1, so feel free to
add me to your strand and shoot me an email anytime.)

Video Tutorials for Dating DNA

November 23, 2008

I put together a few short video tutorials to help uses quickly see how the site works. By investing just a few minutes, it will bring you right up to speed on the most important aspects of the site.

You can find the tutorials here.

Quickly Learn How Dating DNA Works with Video Tutorials

Quickly Learn How Dating DNA Works with Video Tutorials

You will find tutorials for the following five topics:

Basic Layout | Home Tab | Matches | Friends List | iPhone App

The iPhone App is being submitted to the App Store this week, and will be available soon, but you can take a sneak peek at it in these tutorials.  =)

As always, I’d enjoy hearing your thoughts about the new video feature and hope you’ll discuss it with me and other users on the Chat Walls here.


Kevin Carmony
Founder, Dating DNA
DNA# 123-456-789
(I intentionally keep my Threshold set at 1, so feel free to
add me to your strand and shoot me an email anytime.)

Adding Video to your Dating DNA Profile

October 10, 2008

When it comes to online dating, if a “picture is worth a thousand words,” then a video is worth a million.

Today, digital video cameras and web cams have made it extremely easy for anyone to quickly and easily create videos.  The phenomenal success of YouTube (currently the 3rd most popular website globally, behind only Yahoo! and Google) is evidence of the popularity of video in today’s culture.

For online dating, a video goes well beyond photographs in getting to know someone.  It can let you see someone’s personal style and demeanor and hear their voice.  Watching someone on video could save you a lot of uncomfortable hour-long coffee meetings with people who simply aren’t your cup of tea (pun intended ;-).

This week, Dating DNA started allowing you to quickly and easily attach videos to your profile.

Here is what watching a video of a Dating DNA user looks like on the site (click to play below video):

Vodpod videos no longer available.

There are three simple steps for adding video to your Dating DNA profile:

1. Make a video (if you don’t already have one).

There are lots of ways to capture your video, either with a digital camera or using a web cam with software or the “Quick Capture” feature of YouTube.  Just start recording and say hello.  The video doesn’t need to be long, just enough to give people a sense of what you’re like.  Maybe tell us about your hobbies, show us around your home, let us meet your dog, just anything that let’s us see and hear YOU!  (NOTE:  If you don’t have a video yet, but you still want to try attaching video to your profile, just use one of your favorite YouTube videos to give people a sense about you.  For example, I attached this video to my profile as it’s one of my favorite movies.)

2. Upload your video to YouTube or another video hosting site.

YouTube is free and is the most popular site for hosting videos.  It’s easy to use and has lots of features that work well with the Dating DNA site.  There are also lots of good tutorial videos on YouTube that show you how to create and upload videos to YouTube, like this one.

3. Attach your video to your Dating DNA profile.

Once you have a video you want to share, you then cut and paste the “embed” code from the video hosting site to your Dating DNA profile.  This video shows you exactly how to do that (click to play below video or click here to view larger version):

Vodpod videos no longer available.

POWER USER TIP: If you embed a YouTube video and want it to automatically start playing when someone clicks on the video link from your profile, simply add &autoplay=1 just inside the quotation mark before type=” as shown in this example:

Dating DNA should support embedding from most video sites, but if you can’t get it to work, you can simply save a link to the video instead of embedding it.

Next week I’ll be announcing a fun contest for users who add the best videos to their profile.  So, get those videos started!

As always, I’d enjoy hearing your thoughts about the new video feature and hope you’ll discuss it with me and other users on the Chat Walls here.


Kevin Carmony
Founder, Dating DNA
DNA# 123-456-789
(I intentionally keep my Threshold set at 1, so feel free to
add me to your strand and shoot me an email anytime.)

New Match Game—No DNA Number Required!

September 11, 2008

Now EVERYONE can experience Dating DNA

We wanted a fun way for everyone to experience the essence of Dating DNA without having to have a Dating DNA Number.  Up until now, to really understand what Dating DNA was, you had to create an account, complete the questionnaire, and have a Dating DNA Number.  This is no longer the case!

Today we launched a quick, fun little game called “Match Game.”  Match Game allows anyone to experience the fundamentals of Dating DNA without having an account.  Because we’re a no-cost, ad-free site, we don’t have much of a marketing budget so we rely heavily on our users to spread the word about Dating DNA.  It is our hope that this new game will become a helpful tool for users to tell their friends and family about Dating DNA.

I’ll explain more about the game below, but why not just give it a try? Here is the link to play the game with my Dating DNA profile:

Click image to play game with my profile.

Click image to play game with my profile.

The concept is very straight forward and you can play an entire game in just a few minutes.  You simply try to match which of the four Dating DNA users on the right has the highest Compatibility Score with the user on the left. You get 10 points if you guess the most compatible user, 5 for the second most compatible, and 0 for the third, but watch out, you LOSE 5 points if you guess the LEAST compatible person!  You play ten rounds for a total of 100 possible points and can enter your name if you make it to the High Score chart.

Real People — Actual Dating DNA Users

What makes this game so interesting is that all of the people featured are real people and active users of Dating DNA.  Simply click the “Meet Me” link if you spot someone you’d like to get to know better and to see if you meet their Compatibility Threshold.

Random Play, Yourself or Friends

You can play the game with either a random man or woman, OR for a lot more fun, you can play it using your own profile or that of a friend.

Use YOUR Match Game Link to Tell Your Friends about Dating DNA

The main reason we invested the time to build this game was to provide our users with a fun and non-obtrusive way to invite their friends to take a look at Dating DNA.  Rather than emailing your friends to join Dating DNA (not that there is anything wrong with that =), you can now simply email them your Match Game Link for the game.  This will allow your friends, without logging into anything, to play the game with YOUR profile.  Your Match Game Link is simply:  For example, my Match Game Link is  You can also use the “Send to a Friend” button to forward your link to others.  I hope you’ll email everyone you know and see which of your friends scores the highest with your profile.

Your Privacy

The Dating DNA users shown on the right side of the game have opted in to this and other promotions. Your photo or profile will NOT be used in the right side of the game unless you opt in. As you know, one of the great things about Dating DNA is that your photos and profile are kept hidden from the general public and are only shown to those who are compatible with the rules YOU set.  (Click here and scroll down to the last question to adjust your promotion settings.)

I’d enjoy hearing your thoughts about this new game and hope you’ll discuss it with me and other users on the Chat Walls here.  Let us know what you think as well as how high you scored with my profile!


Kevin Carmony
Founder, Dating DNA
DNA# 123-456-789
(I intentionally keep my Threshold set at 1, so feel free to
add me to your strand and shoot me an email anytime.)