Using Browse: “Yes, No, Maybe So” (Find and Filter—Part II)

A few weeks ago I did a blog entitled “Find and Filter” — The Heart of Online Dating.  In that blog I explained the process of every online dating site, and their two major goals:  1) FIND–have the largest database possible of potential dating partners, and 2) FILTER–have a system to sort through that large database to find the best matches for you.

Below is the graph that I used in that blog.  The part in blue is what a dating sites helps you with, and then you take over by actually meeting, dating, and then selecting who to enter into a relationship with.

In today’s blog, I want to explain in more detail the blue area, and how Dating DNA works to help you find and filter potential dating partners.  So, let’s start by looking a little more closely at that blue area and see what the find and filter process looks like at Dating DNA:

Dating DNA starts by using compatibility scores to filter out most users, and then presenting you with possible matches in your Browse results.  This is where you step in and have to help with the evaluation process.

Using Browse Results – “Yes, No, Maybe So”

One at a time, look at the individuals in your Browse results and ask yourself if you have interest in that person.

YES — If the answer is Yes, then you should add this person to your DNA Strand. When you do this, several things happen.  1) The user is removed from your Browse results and placed into your DNA Strand, so you can quickly find those individuals you’re most interested in.  2) The system automatically adds you to that person’s DNA Strand as well, and 3) An email is sent to the other user, letting them know you have added them to your strand.  This is the very first step in the “getting to know you” process.  You’re basically saying to that person, “Hi!  I have some interest in getting to know you better.” Once in your strand, you can send them emails and start communicating with them directly.

NO — If, however, you know this is someone you’re not interested in, you can click the Remove button and they will be removed from future Browses.  This is a great feature of Dating DNA that you don’t find on most other sites.  This has two big advantages:  1) You don’t have to keep reviewing the same people over and over again that you know you’re not interested in, and 2) not only does the system remove that person from your Browse results, BUT it also REMOVES YOU from THEIR Browse results. The logic here is if you’re not interested in someone, then there is no point in having the other person be bothered with wondering if they are interested in you.  So, when you remove people from your Browse results, not only does it save YOU time, but it saves time for the person you remove as well.

MAYBE SO — If you’re not quite sure yet if you’re interested or not, then you can simply leave the person in your Browse results for the time being.  For example, perhaps they haven’t uploaded a photo yet so you don’t want to rule them out, but you don’t want to add them to your strand either.

So, that’s the simple process of filtering users from your Browse results.  You can then start communicating with those in your DNA Strand.  In a future blog I’ll talk more about the DNA Strand and how to further use that as a tool in the filtering process.

I’d enjoy hearing your thoughts about this blog, and hope you’ll discuss it with me and other users on the Chat Walls here.


Kevin Carmony
Founder, Dating DNA
DNA# 123-456-789
(I intentionally keep my Threshold set at 1, so feel free to
add me to your strand and shoot me an email anytime.)


3 Responses to Using Browse: “Yes, No, Maybe So” (Find and Filter—Part II)

  1. iquanyin says:

    ah. donno why but didn’t catch the part about how you can remove ppl from browsing results. awesome–basically, fulfills my wish for a way to stop getting ppl in early 20s (too young for me).


  2. Angel says:

    Do not like the way this is set up at all. There is NO way to find people and save them in a folder UNLESS you tell the person you’re saving them This makes no sense! Why bother the person if you’re only saving to look over their profile later? There needs to be a – separate – way to save profiles WITHOUT bothering the person your saving…. I no longer use datingdna for this one reason alone….

  3. datingdna says:


    Dating DNA is different than pretty much ever other dating system, so it doesn’t need a “favorites” feature. DNA is different in that, unlike pretty much every other dating site, you can’t even see all the other users on the system. You are only shown “Matches” for those who you score high enough with on your Compatibility Score to meet each others standards. This means you get a lot fewer Matches, because they have already been pre-screened. So, instead of flagging users you’re maybe interested in as a “favorite,” you just leave them in your Matches and instead, you REMOVE the Matches you know you’re NOT interested in. That is exactly what this Blog is about. When you view a Matches, you simply ask yourself if you’re interested or not. If you answer YES, then you Express Interest and move them from your Matches to your Friends List. If you answer NO, then you remove them from you Matches so you don’t have to keep reviewing them (this also has the added benefit of removing YOU from THEIR Matches, so THEY don’t bother adding you, since the system now knows YOUR not interested in them). Lastly, if you’re not sure, and you answer MAYBE, then you just leave them in your Matches. This does exactly what you want, the only difference is that instead of those you may or may not be interested in being in a Favorites area, they are just in your Matches area. It doesn’t bother anyone, and it keeps those you are maybe interested in separate.

    We’ve had this system for five years, without complaint. If, however, you just can’t wrap your head around it, then yes, you’ll be happier at a more traditional dating site.

    Dating DNA

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